5 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Get Married

You Hate Being Single and..He Asked

Everyone has been in a relationship that they are sure they shouldn't be in. The person is not 100% right for them and they don't really seem like the type of person you want to spend your entire life with. Many people stay in relationships only because they have a fear of being alone and single. Trust me, I have been one of those people and it is no way to live. Saying yes to a marriage proposal out of fear that it will never happen again is VERY WRONG. It will benefit you in the long run that you take more time and not get into something you're really not ready for.

An Unexpected Pregnancy 

Ahhh, you found out that the guy you met 2 months ago at the bar got you pregnant and you have no idea what to do. Marriage is not the answer. This may go against many peoples religious beliefs but marriage will not make the fact that you had an unplanned pregnancy go away. Your pregnancy is something beautiful and sacred and should not be taken lightly. Use that time of your life to prepare for the child that you are about to introduce to the world. If the father is the right man for you indeed discuss growing your relationship at another time, not due to the fact that you got knocked up.

For the Relationship to Improve 

If you are in a rocky relationship and you feel that you need to make some changes to get it back on track getting married should be the last thing on your mind. Getting married requires a lot of thought and dedication. There are more life altering things to take into consideration when deciding to make such a large commitment. Instead of thinking marriage will fix all the problems try correcting the issues first then discuss marriage. You want to make a big decision like that once you are in a good mind space and emotions are not driving your decisions. 


You're In Love 

Being in love is a wonderful thing. It can make you feel like a person can do no wrong and life will be perfect. I learned a long time ago that every couple will go through an infatuation phase. That phase where his messiness doesn't bother you and her loud snoring is cute. The phase where you don't get bothered by her taking hours to get ready for a date or even his inability to inform you on social events. There is nothing wrong with going through this phase, in fact it's joyous to experience. The most important thing to realize is that this will wear off and reality of life will set in. If you can not only love but like your partner for all that they are you will be in a good place. Before quickly jumping to marriage be sure that the infatuation phase of your relationship has passed.


You Want a Dream Wedding

This, in my opinion, is by far one of the worst reasons to get married. Most women grow up dreaming about their wedding day. What her dress will look like, what color the flowers will be and even how the day will be planned. However, not many wishful brides consider the man, or woman, they will be marrying. The good news about wanting a dream wedding is that anyone can have one and in whatever way they choose. Don't settle for the Wall Street banker because he promised you a no budget wedding. Think about your life afterwards and if a dream wedding is really worth a lifetime of sadness.

Whatever reason you choose to say I Do, be sure that it has been a well thought out plan. Taking the step to get married is a big one and you don't want to end up one of those people that it takes a lifetime to figure it out!

My First Etsy Shop: Pure Body Love

Hi Everyone!! 

As you can tell by the video I am so excited about this new venture! So amazing things are happening and I couldn't wait to share with you guys. 

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Sweet Potato & Quinoa Lasagna

I found  this awesome recipe on MJ and Hungryman blog via Pinterest I knew I had to make it. I have been wanting a "lasagna" for a while now and I have. It tastes super yummy and you really don't miss the traditional meat lasagna.

Here is my little step by step how to with some pictures.

Enjoy! 

Ingredients

• 3 cups diced sweet potatoes
• 2 cups chopped cauliflower
• 1 teaspoon olive oil
• 2 cups water
• 1 cup quinoa
• 1½ cups tomato sauce or prepared pasta sauce
• 1 tub (15oz.) part-skim ricotta cheese
• 1 large egg, beaten
• ¼ cup grated parmesan cheese
• 2 tablespoons minced fresh basil
• 1 tablespoon dried oregano
• 1 cup shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese

Instructions

Heat oven to 350 degrees F. On a large baking sheet, spread sweet potatoes and cauliflower tossed with oil. Roast for 25-30 minutes.

In the meantime, coat a 9 by 13 inch baking dish with cooking spray.

Combine ricotta cheese and egg in a medium bowl; mix well. Stir in parmesan, basil, and oregano.

Combine water and quinoa in a medium saucepan. Bring to a boil. Reduce to simmer, cover and cook for 15 min. Fluff with a fork. Evenly spread the quinoa in the prepared baking dish. I cooked my quinoa in a rice cooker to make my life easier. Of course I forgot to take pictures but it's the same method of rice cooking. 

Before doing this step I had extra sliced sweet potatoes from another recipe and decided to line the baking dish with those before adding sauce 
Spread half of the sauce over the quinoa. Make a layer of the roasted veggies, then all the ricotta mixture. 

Make a layer of the roasted veggies, then all the ricotta mixture. Finish with the remaining sauce and spread mozzarella on top. See pictures below. 

Bake the lasagna until it is hot and the cheese is melted, bubbling and slightly browned around the edges, 30-35 minutes. Let stand for about 10 minutes before serving.

Recipe Source: http://www.mjandhungryman.com/vegetarian-sweet-potato-quinoa-lasagna-2/

Marriage Mondays- Communication

Check out more of my new marriage series every Monday at: https://www.youtube.com/user/NikkivsNaps

Everyone Argues

I come from an extended family of a lot of fights (verbal and physical). As a child I didn't realize that what my family was doing was not normal or at least healthy. I thought all of my friends families were just like mine. Little did I know what was my norm was not normal.

The reason that I am bringing this up is because the other day my fiance and I were having a conversation about something. I don't remember exactly what we were talking about but the conversation started to move towards an argument. Now, I don't mean break off the engagement argument, I just mean the kind of discussion that shows that even as a couple we can have extreme differences. Just a few days ago I got into an argument with some friends about decisions that I had made in regards to my wedding day. It didn't get to a point to where we were yelling and cursing each other out but it was an argument. They had a different thought and feelings on the decision that I made. My sisters and I used to fight all the time. They always thought I was trying to mother them and steer them in a better path than they were going. We would argue about the most simple things and they would last for days. However, out of all these arguments the one that bothers me the most is the one with my fiance.

When we started dating we rarely had heated discussions. I guess that is because we were still in the infatuation phase. I don't think that infatuation has completely gone away but we have learned more about our differences as time moves on. Many of our arguments comes from one of us not completely understanding what the other is trying to express at that moment. We often deal with the fact that women and men really do think totally on the opposite end of the spectrum. In our pre-marital counseling we learn a lot about communicating and how as humans we will naturally disagree on things. Like, if our kids should go to private or public school, how often we should go on vacation, how is suppose to do what chores around the house, how much money each other spends and even about clothes that the other chooses to wear. None of these topics are abnormal but they all, when discussed for too long, make me very uncomfortable. I cry every time we get there and I hate it. It really bothers me that I can't have a normal argument without tears welling up in my eyes. Nevertheless, I  truly believe that since i grew up in a family were arguing was a second form of communication I developed a serious sensitivity to it. So much so that I avoid arguing or fighting with people at all cause. I would rather be wrong than create an argument based on something. I find no pleasure in arguing with people, especially those that I love the most.

Thankfully, our premarital counselling is teaching us a lot about how to handle heated discussion in a manner that no one gets hurt and everyone is heard. We don't fight a lot but I know they will come every now and then. At least now I know that its OK to have differences and better to get them out than let them boil inside of you.

i also heard that make up sex will be the best sex...can't wait for married life!