Monday afternoon
Guy: Hey
Me: Hi
Guy: What are you doing?
Me:Working
Guy: Where do you work?
Me: Nonprofit in DC.
Guy: How are you doing today?
(too busy at work to respond)
few hours later
Guy: What are you doing after work?
Me: Im off, at the gym right now.
Guy: K cool
Guy: What are you doing after work?
Me:…..
Guy: gym
Me: Home
Guy: k cool
Me:……
Guy: So you want to go out this weekend?
Me: Uhhh sure
Guy: So you want to go out this weekend?
Me: You must be anxious or something?
Guy: No, why?
Me: Because you keep asking a lot of questions and repeating yourself.
Guy: No, that’s just me.
Me: Hmm ok
Guy: Apologies
Me: That’s cool
Guy: So we can meet up sometime this weekend?
(thinking to myself, you just did it again!!!)
Me: Friday is best for me.
Guy: Ok cool, its a date then.
Me: So, what you have in mind for Friday?
Guy: Maybe going to get some ice cream or something.
Me: Oh…ok
Guy: Is that ok?
Me: I wouldn’t have exactly picked that, but its fine.
Guy: What else did you have in mind?
I never respond and the conversation is over…I need to consult with Ivory on this one.
So, after I talk to Ivory (my cousin), we go through the entire situation and I come to the conclusion that I don’t have any interest in going out with him. It has nothing to do with the fact that he wanted to do something that I didn’t. Just the entire situation was crazy form the beginning. Asking me if I was a virgin, repeating everything, asking me to be his girl and then telling me to look somewhere else. I actually lost interest in him a after the virgin question. But after talking to someone about giving second chances I felt that was necessary. I also felt that I couldn’t do to someone what has happened to me more often than not. Reject him. But Ivory had to make me realize that I wasn’t obligated to accept is offer. And that it was ok that I didn’t like him. So then came the time to tell him I didn’t want to go out anymore. Now, I know all too well that how you tell someone you’re not interested is the most important part of telling them. So I made sure that I chose my words wisely. After a couple of ideas came up I finally settled on “Im not interested in going out anymore.” There it was and I quickly pushed the send button before I started to second guess myself. Within a minute I recieved a message that said, “Whatev fuck off.”
I honestly couldn’t do anything but laugh, delete the messages and go in with my night. All the while feeling very happy that I didn’t go out with him. Ah well, we live and we learn.
peace
nikki
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